<figure> <img alt="People, standing and sitting, look at their phones in a crowded New York City subway car." src="https://platform.vox.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2026/09/gettyimages-2268064035.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&crop=0,0,100,100" /> <figcaption> </figcaption> </figure> <p class="wp-block-paragraph">Recently, while taking the metro to work, an incident occurred where a woman cut in line, prompting reflection on social etiquette. The author expressed frustration over perceived declining manners in public spaces, particularly in light of changes following the Covid pandemic.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">According to a Pew Research survey, nearly half of Americans have observed an increase in rudeness since the pandemic. This includes behaviors such as playing music loudly in public without headphones.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Kirsty Sedgman, a professor at the University of Bristol and author of <em>On Being Unreasonable: Breaking the Rules and Making Things Better</em>, emphasized the importance of manners in fostering considerate social interactions. She stated, “They encourage us to think about others and to behave in ways that are not antisocial and potentially even dangerous.”</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Sedgman noted that while some etiquette rules are clear, others are more complex. She acknowledged her own imperfections in navigating these social norms.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Lizzie Post, great-great granddaughter of etiquette expert Emily Post, highlighted the evolving nature of etiquette over time. She remarked that etiquette is often perceived as exclusive or judgmental, but it can also adapt to changing societal norms.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The conversation also touched on cellphone etiquette, particularly regarding the use of speakerphones and playing media in public spaces. Sedgman pointed out that such behaviors can disrupt others who have not consented to be part of the experience.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Sedgman suggested that correcting these behaviors can be challenging, as people often hesitate to address others' actions directly. She mentioned that in situations where one is in a confined space for an extended period, it may be appropriate to request that someone use headphones.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The discussion included advice on using speakerphones appropriately, such as informing others present when on a call. It also addressed the etiquette of having phones on the table during meals, with a recommendation to keep phones away to avoid distractions.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Regarding texting, Sedgman stated that response times can vary based on the context of the message, especially when it involves making plans with friends or potential romantic interests.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The full conversation can be accessed on Vox’s podcast, <em>Explain It to Me</em>.</p>